I haven’t written much in the Keys to Joy blog about the Law of Attraction. Possibly because it may rub some people the wrong way. But I’m okay with that now; to each their own. Also, because it was quite pervasive for awhile. It seemed like everywhere you turned, the buzz phrase, “Law of Attraction”, was written or said. I think it got “old” fast and not fully understood. Regardless, Law of Attraction is a very important part of my life and belief system. Although it is only recently that I fully realized the high level of its importance.
Firstly, the definition of Law of Attraction is “like attracts like”. We attract things into our lives with our thoughts and feelings, whatever is a match comes to us. This is an oversimplified definition as there are many factors to consider such as, ego (limited perspective), intentions, past lives, everything is energy, the overall (rather than specific) vibration (energy) of things, etc. Please read anything by Esther and Jerry Hicks (Abraham) for very in-depth information. But this definition will suffice for what I’d like to get across in this post.
I was in a slump. Thing after thing was bad and getting worse. It started with being slightly annoyed with someone. Rather than work through this by figuring out what it was reflecting in myself or focusing on something else, I let it bring me down emotionally. My annoyance turned to anger. From there, I fumed and fumed. Thoughts about all things I didn’t like in my life seemed to percolate in my mind. Then I felt hopeless and full of despair. Then the “real” evidence began to appear. I got swamped with work I did not like, co-workers were not respecting me, my body had new aches and pains. Fortunately, I had been doing inner work long enough to stop and ask what was going on with me, rather than simply blaming others and circumstances. I used the affirmation – Only good will come from this. And then asked, what was the good?
That’s when I realized the good was seeing how the Law of Attraction works in a real life example. It also helped me to fully understand that the crap I was experiencing wasn’t because I was bad or unworthy of good. It’s simply the Law of Attraction. Abraham (Esther Hicks) says Law of Attraction is a very fair friend. It always gives you exactly what you are a vibrational match to. This can be a harsh point to face when our lives aren’t as we want them to be. But, Law of Attraction is responding to our feelings and energy, not what we say we want.
If we say we want a million dollars but most of the time we complain about not having enough money or wonder how we are going to pay a bill or be bitter or jealous towards those with a lot of money, the Law of Attraction is “hearing” our overall feeling of complaining, jealousy and distrust. Those feelings are not a match to abundance. We may be saying or even thinking we want a million dollars but then we feel otherwise. And those feelings are much stronger than our words. Consider this, we may be saying one thing, but deep down we are actually feeling the opposite. And remember Law of Attraction is responding to what underlies our words, not the words themselves.
Fortunately, we have the ability to focus our attention. It is absolutely, 100% our decision what we focus our thoughts on (it may seem difficult, especially in certain situations, but it is just one of those things where practice is key). The Universe “hears” whatever we are focused on. Even if we say we do not want something. In our negation, we are focused on it and so it comes to us. Just like an internet search – suppose you type in, “not polar bears”. What that search will yield is tons of information about polar bears. It’s not going to bring up everything not about polar bears. And so it is with your thoughts and the universe. If you’re saying not polar bears, you actually are thinking about polar bears even though you don’t want them in your life, and polar bears is what you will get.
But how do we not think about what we don’t want? It is very difficult, if not impossible, to make ourselves full-on stop thinking about something we are already thinking. But by giving more attention to what we do want, we naturally flood out those unwanted thoughts.
We can also commit to paying more attention to what we are thinking. When we become more aware of our thoughts rather than just letting them fly haphazardly, we have the control to divert their direction. To get started, put a reminder note – What am I thinking? – somewhere that you see often, or ask a friend to remind you every day, or ask the question during a routine activity so you link it to that daily activity, like showering, brushing your teeth, or eating dinner.
We can designate a specific time of day or activity where we focus on something specific we want. First thing when we open our eyes, at noon, driving to work, waiting in line, during (muted) tv commercials are all opportunistic times to deliberately focus our minds on what we desire.
It has also been shown that those who practice meditation have an easier time focusing their thoughts. Research has shown that the more we practice thinking a certain way, our neural pathways actually change. So meditating will actually help us later to focus on what we want. A couple of deep breaths with our attention on the breath is a type of meditation. So no ego-excuses about not being able nor having time to meditate!
Remember to keep it fun! Or at least not a chore. If focusing on what we want becomes chore-like, then our root feeling is negative which then cancels the entire focused thought process.
What fun, creative ways have you discovered that help you to keep focused on what you want?
Next post we’ll talk more about manifesting specific desires and the science behind it!